“13 Reasons Why,” a Netflix series based on the novel “13 Reasons Why” by Jay Asher published in 2007, is a story about a high school girl who leaves behind 13 cassette tapes for the people who led her to commit suicide.
Now that’s some heavy clickbait. There is a lot to ruminate on once you’ve finished the season and as hyped up as it is I will be one of the people to say “13 Reasons” is not doing what it intended to. I believe its intentions were to shine light on teen suicide, the effects of bullying and the importance of having a strong support group.
Instead I just ended up feeling resentment for Hannah.
- The tapes are nothing more than revenge recordings. Hannah points out to her abusers how they ruined her life. She doesn’t hold back in any sense of the phrase. Even Clay, the protagonist of the story and most clueless boy alive, is mentioned because he wasn’t there for her when she needed him most. He is left to believe that he killed her. That they all killed her. This doesn’t mean her abusers aren’t in the wrong. They definitely added to her depression. In truth they are in part why she took her own life but to put all of the blame on them seems selfish and downright cold.
- Never is mental illness addressed. It is clear that Hannah is suffering from depression, possibly PTSD and other mental health problems but instead the sole focus is once again on her fellow classmates. This was an extremely bad decision on the creator’s end. No solutions are offered and no stigmas are destigmatized. Instead she is portrayed as a little ‘crazy.’
- It glorifies suicide. The decision to show the suicide scene, a very graphic one at that, was clearly not thought through. “About a month before the release of ‘13 Reasons Why,’ Dan Reidenberg said he was contacted by Netflix and asked to provide guidance. Reidenberg, a psychologist, is the executive director of Suicide Awareness Voices of Education, a national organization. He said he told Netflix that they “shouldn’t go ahead with the project.”
And yet they went against his better judgement. This is especially harmful to younger adolescents. It not only romanticizes suicide but Hannah’s last moments. It shows a way that they too could end their lives.
“13 Reasons why” is well-done; the storytelling is dramatic and pulls kids in, while relating to them. That makes it more dangerous,” Reidenberg said.
- It gives too much validation for Hannah’s 13 reasons. It teaches its viewers that this is almost a justified and acceptable suicide. People who are experiencing similar problems that Hannah did may feel entitled to blame others entirely. Yes, bullies and abusers absolutely need to be held accountable, but it actually discourages the idea of getting help. It makes it seem OK when in reality Hannah needed to seek professional help. She could’ve been saved. There was still a chance for her.
- Also what’s up with the guys in the show (most of them) being absolutely abusive and yet hardly are those issues addressed? I mean for god’s sake we have characters who are traumatized because of varying degrees of sexual, emotional and psychological abuse. The women in the show are portrayed as helpless and lost. It doesn’t do any service to the capabilities that women possess. They are all damsels in distress.
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- This is a little ridiculous to point out but can we please talk about Tony’s character? Honestly what is he? A greaser straight out of a 1950s malt shop? This stuck out to me like a sore thumb throughout the entire season. I understand he is Clay’s unrelated ‘older brother’ and he had to be a bit of an outlier to fit his role but his is quite the anomaly, or as Clay would put it an “unhelpful Yoda.”
- Something that made me laugh was how out of touch the teenagers were. Usually the parents lack of pop culture knowledge is overexaggerated, but for whatever reason Clay doesn’t know what a tape recorder is. Yet in a later episode he knows who the Sex Pistols members are BY NAME. Seems highly unlikely considering the rising trend of everyone buying vinyl and constantly talking about the 90s, (as if Generation Y remembers it.)
- Hannah is extremely defensive. Given the mistreatment she receives it is understable but only to a point. She tells Clay on his tape that he should have stayed that, that is what she wanted. Yet he asks multiple times what is wrong and she literally screams at him to leave her alone. I’m assuming the show wanted to stress the importance of sticking around and making sure someone is OK. I can buy into that but only if it’s half off. My real concern here is that it shows Hannah doing the yes means no and no means yes thing. No means no. You have to communicate clearly with people. Expecting people to read your mind is such unhealthy behavior. Hopefully Hannah’s actions don’t empower its viewers who also speak in tongues.
- I’m 50/50 on this next one. Hannah gets very easily angry with Clay for not saying what she’d prefer to hear. Clay is awkward and he doesn’t do himself any favors by being so standoffish, when it’s clear he loves Hannah. With saying that Hannah is short-tempered and puts him down as soon as he responds with one of his dumb remarks. He is clueless and I understand how he unintentionally hurts Hannah. He really should’ve gone after what he wanted but Hannah is pretty hard on him and she fails to see that Clay isn’t a mind reader, he needs to be told what she wants.
- I wasn’t totally sold on the idea that everyone knew the poem published in the magazine was written by Hannah. It doesn’t seem realistic that everyone would be so interested in poetry and that a teacher would read it aloud, especially considering it wasn’t an actual school publication. But I understand everything was dramatized to show how it feels when you’ve been publically humiliated. It added to Hannah’s isolation but it also strayed from something more believable.
- Kinda going off of the last issue I think the show intended to convey just how bad bullying can get, how badly it really can affect people, especially adolescents. Yet because its mission was to compile abuse after abuse it lost its relevancy. It turned into a more depressed version of “Degrassi Junior High”. So much of the dialogue was absolutely ridiculous. It didn’t do the best job of showing everyday teens, instead it threw in a lot of archetypes. The jock who is unbelievably overpowering and cliche. The goth coffee shop girl who uses tarot cards and has impressively aggressive interactions. Need I again mention Tony and his slicked back hair and leather jacket?
- I’m going to get positive for the last two. I like that it delved into the mind of a victim. It showed how not only physical and sexual abuse can be emotionally damaging but how words are just as powerful. How this psychological abuse compounds and can drive someone to have suicidal thoughts. I don’t deny that someone can be brought down to the lowest of the lows. A good takeaway would be that it strives to teach people to be mindful of their actions. To remind themselves that everyone has their own cross to bear.
- Lastly the importance of looking for signs that someone could be suffering from depression and worse case scenario, suicidal thoughts. Suicides like Hannah’s are inherently tragic because she had a chance. There was hope for her.
But my final summation is there is no hope for this show actually having redeeming enough qualities to be a positive influence for its targeted age group. I wouldn’t recommend any parent to allow their child to watch it. I don’t think most adolescents are mature enough to analyze it any deeper than its face value. We need to stop glorifying suicide and self harm. 10 times out of 10 I can guarantee anyone’s attempt to recreate Hannah’s suicide tapes will be a failed attempt to resolve anything… because it’ll be too late.